taboo? touche!
Thursday, Jul. 17, 2003 - 11:07 pm

i want to know why sex is such a taboo topic. lots of people have sex - more do than dont. i'm sure that someone is having sex during every second of the day. that's a lot of sex. yet people dont like to talk about it. most people get embarassed talking about it in front of people they dont know, or people they know well sometimes... depending on what you're saying. it's always embarassing to hear about your elders having sex - or to actually hear your elders having sex. thank god i never had that problem. but that's another story.

i remember one of my old friends telling me about her discovery of condoms in her parents bedroom one day. she was horrified. another friend was definitely horrified to find dildos and anal plugs in their parents bedroom. but these are just things! things that they probably use themselves now, lol. and as for hearing people have sex... i've heard many a love-making. none of these people being my relations tho. its funny to hear people tell each other what to do... it sounds so frantic. i often wonder what it would be like if, say, i was a clone... a fully grown, comprehending adult, but knew nothing of the human species and how it reproduces. how weird would it be to hear the words people use when in the heat of passion? i, being perfectly aware of the culture and reproduction of humans, dont understand some of it myself.

this bring me to the discussion of sex and sexual acts. many people dont mind making "noises" during sexual acts. however, if you are caught making these sounds, many are embarassed. i ask - why? for example, people sometimes dont like hearing others have sex... which sometimes comes back to haunt them. but really... hearing people have good loud sex means that at least ONE of the people having the sex is having a good time and being pleasured... or at least faking it to pleasure the other person. why should they be made embarassed at this fact? screaming in pleasure in any other situation is not a reason to hang your head in shame - why should it be that way for sex?

also, why is it so taboo for people to brag about good sex? ok, granted, some people have good friendships in which they can say "damn i had some good sex last night" and everyone will congradulate him or her. others are not so lucky, however. lots of people think that this kind of proclomation is unnecessary. and why should it suddenly be "pornographic" to talk about how good your partner is at pleasing you? if he/she makes you scream in pleasure, others should know.

take jeff for instance. jeff and i talk about sex. i have no inhibitions in talking about sex with him. he shares, i share, it's a great little release. if everyone just turned to one friend and say "hey, i have great sex!" i think everyone would be a lot happier.